AS YOUR ATTORNEY:
I will answer your questions. I will explain and recommend options to you.
If you have children, I will work to make sure their best interests are protected.
Adversarial Divorce is best suited for resolving deep-seated disagreement, where there may be little trust between spouses, complaints of parental incompetence, or allegations that the other party is hiding assets.
Adversarial Divorce
Often thought of as "going for the jugular" Adversarial Divorce is the most misunderstood of The Three Approaches to Divorce. Fortunately, it does not have to be.
As your Adversarial Divorce lawyer my goal is to achieve resolution between you and your wife on issues surrounding property, finances and, if you have them, children.
First, I work to determine the important facts needed to resolve these issues, for example the value of your house or the actuarial value of a pension.
Next, I work toward reaching agreement with your wife and her attorney.
If there are areas upon which we cannot agree your wife's lawyer and I seek to develop a way of achieving complete agreement without a divorce trial. Some of the ways to do this include using Divorce Mediation or arranging a conference with the judge to get the judge's input on a disputed issue.
Only after all reasonable efforts at settlement have failed do I recommend trial.
If a trial is necessary, I use over twenty-five years of experience as a trial lawyer, an arbitrator (a private judge), a master (appointed to take the place of the judge for certain purposes), and a guardian (appointed to investigate for the judge) to zealously present your case to the trial judge.
Point to Consider
If you and your wife have been successfully separated for six or more months and agree on all important issues, ask your attorney to give you a list of at least ten experienced divorce attorneys. Then, give the list to your wife and ask her to consider retaining one of the attorneys. Why? Because, two experienced attorneys can often achieve a fair divorce resolution more quickly in the Adversarial Divorce approach then in any other approach.